Your Inner Child

As I am doing a lot of Inner Child work with clients recently I thought it would be a great time to write something about it.

In the regression work I am doing with some of my clients we go back to childhood memories to heal old subconscious wounds. These memories are often experienced as if we are there and we are reliving these experiences again. It's where through the use of hypnosis we can do great healing work and let go of false generalisations our younger self has made and therefore heal our present by coaching our younger selves and helping them make peace.

In hypnosis and healing work the subconscious mind plays an important role as it is there that we can affect deep healing and permanent change. Our conscious mind is just the tip of an enormous iceberg.

In some healing traditions the Inner Child which is inside each and every one of us is described as being the same as our subconscious mind.

It is all our stored emotions, memories and everything that we have experienced since the day we were born.

In these traditions our conscious mind resembles the mother or father aspect of ourselves which makes a lot of sense.

The relationship between our mother/father aspect (conscious mind) and our Inner child (subconscious mind) is of great importance because it affects the way we feel about ourselves and how we deal with the world.

To get in touch with our subconscious mind, our inner child, lets have a look at how we talk to ourselves:

How do we truly talk to ourselves?

Is it in a kind, compassionate and forgiving way? Or do we carry programs that are critical, judgmental and unnecessarily harsh?

It is helpful to pay close attention to the words we use internally and the tone of voice in which we speak.

Do we sound like one of our parents, or like a teacher we had?

If we pay attention to our inner dialogue and self talk we notice very quickly what kind of parent we are to ourselves and if we go further assuming that with our inner dialogue we are truly speaking to our child within, we can become aware of what kind of effect our inner dialogue has on our relationship with our inner child.

Our relationship with our subconscious mind is of vital importance because it is there where we experience feelings of selfworth, unconditional love and wellbeing.

This understanding alone shows how much responsibility we have.

The next time when you are being too judgmental or critical or harsh with yourself, stop and become aware that you are talking also to a very, very young part of yourself.

Think about it and ask yourself if you would talk to your own child the way you talk to yourself and change your tone and self talk to be more loving and compassionate.

When you do this consistently you will notice great changes in your life. The inner child in most people has retreated because of years of unloving thoughts and negative inner dialogue.

There is an ancient Hawaian practice which is called Ho' oponopono that is highly recommended to heal this relationship.

It is basically a prayer, a substitute for thinkingness and negative inner dialogue.

It is deceptively simple.

You say to yourself and your inner child the following words repeatedly:

I love you.

I am sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

With the awareness that you are talking to your inner child this practice becomes a prayer that heals your connection to your inner child and subconscious mind in due time.

When you find yourself stuck in endless thinkingness just substitute your inner dialogue with these words. Loop them inside your head, when you walk on the street, when you do your groceries, whenever you can and feel the calm and peace that comes with this.

When you are dealing with someone who is difficult to deal with, just repeat these words silently within yourself as you are dealing with that person. On a higher spiritual level, you have attracted this person into your life and that person is reflecting back to you an aspect of yourself which you can heal by sending out love and saying these words within yourself.

The more you do this, the more you will feel a sense of joy, a childlike playfulness and creativity come back into your life. As it is the inner child that holds all your childlike qualities, the ease and lighthearted joy that is your birthright to experience each and every day returns as your relationship heals.

Here is a video of the affirmation, that you can play at night or in the background of your home.

To help establish that connection print out a childhood picture of yourself and put out into your wallet, it a great reminder that you carry that child with you wherever you go.

Be nice to it! ;)

Oliver